Tuesday, June 14, 2016

Last Things First


 









I am buying a house!  Well, maybe.  You see, this was a project for the last quarter of Fit for 40.  But as life has shown me so many times over the last 3 years-I do not get to decide the right time for things.  It so happened that my husband and I decided we needed to take a step forward and this was the one to make.  And then I was preapproved.  Like, almost overnight. 

(Insert MAJOR panic attack here.)

Ok.  I guess many people would say we were late in the game and this is not the last thing first.  Many couples do this in their 20s.   We waited until we finished school and the housing market finished its major collapse.  Had the mother of all hellmouths opened up under us last year, we would have probably done it then (and been better off for it price wise).  But, we took our time and tried to do it right.


Now, we have been in the house buying business for less than a week.  We have seen 3 houses up close and personal with realtors and a few dozen without. Not to mention hours on Zillow and other house buying sites.  Plus, I am reading the book pictured above so that I have some clue about how not to make a complete mess of this!

Like everything else, I am obsessing a bit and should be less hyperfocused than I am.  But, maybe I need the house to get to the next steps.  Maybe this is the step that will propel me forward in everything else.  And so, I obsess and look at every street I drive down, and read, and scour the internet like a pirate looking for hidden treasure.

How was your home buying experience?  What would you do differently?  What worked perfectly?  All advice appreciated!  Now, I am off to scour the internet some more.  After all, hidden treasure does not find itself.

Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Fit for Forty and Other Updates

Hi Everyone,

     If you are just tuning in, let me give you a quick overview of this blog.  After reading Playing Big by Tara Mohr last year, I was inspired to tackle some of the personal items that have been dogging my to do list for years (some even decades).  Meanwhile, life had other plans.

     Without getting into it in this post, 2015 was a tsunami of destruction in my personal life.  Health issues within my family came to the forefront that led to the breakdown of relationships.  Luckily, we were able to rebuild those relationships with a stronger foundation than ever, but the havoc that surrounded me was all-consuming.

     I finally came out of that extreme period of hurt, chaos, and growth to realize that I was not done yet.  I still had a lot of growing to do.  It was time to go back inside and set out to do what I originally had planned-tackle the issues that have been holding me back and play big!

     So, we come to fit for 40.  I celebrated my 39th birthday and decided I wanted to end my 30s on a high note and go into my 40s stronger than ever!  So, here we are.  After a (3) year period of huge struggles it is time to do what I came to do.  Mental fitness, physical fitness, social fitness, soul fitness- I am putting it all out this year.  I hope you come along for the ride.  It promises to be an ugly trainwreck before the finish line, but it will be a journey definitely worth checking in on if only for the shared laughs, tears, bumbling, and adventures I will be sure to find myself on!

Talk Soon,
Mis


Monday, February 8, 2016

The Journey Continues...

Long time no chat!  I am definitely still on the path to finding Mis, but I felt the need to go underground for awhile to kind of just be and figure out what should come next. 

If you have been reading my journey so far, you know that  sent some HUGE whammies my way.  Really, 2013-2015 were filled with so many monumental highs and epic lows that I needed to get off the roller coaster for a bit.  It was what inspired this journey in the first place.  BTW, I HATE roller coasters, so having a minute to step off the ride and vomit was just what I needed.

Okay, so that was not a pretty picture, but neither was the place I was in.  We have all been there.  Think of a time when your world was falling apart, yet you somehow managed to go to work (and rock it), keep your direct family together, continue relationships with friends and other family members (and rock it), and yet, your daily life could not have been more stressful, confusing, or painful.

I am not going to go into the whole women suffering in silence debate because that was not what it was about for me.  It was about reaching my personal and career goals, keeping my family together and healthy, and just waiting for the suck to take a five minute break so we could get our lives back on track or (the audacity) to an even better place than before. 

I am here to say we have reached the other side!!!!  It was not without a total implosion.  One that I certainly thought we were not going to come back from.  But, not only is my family in the best place it has been in, well maybe ever, but I have found new layers of myself that I was not sure existed. 

This journey continues to shock and amaze me.  It is hard.  I cannot tie it to one thing.  It is about wellness and mindfulness, it is about knowing myself and what I need much better, it is about making my best life.  It is about owning my feelings and actually feeling them (this is the part that makes me want to quit every. single. day.)  But, I want to do it.  I want to be accountable for it.  I want you to know that you can do it to.  And if we are being honest here, it is always more fun when you have a support network and you know you are not alone.  So, if you are ready, Iet's take this journey to Finding Mis and Finding (YOU!!!!) together.